Anytime someone agrees to share their story with me I do a little happy dance. I love reading these excerpts as much as I love writing my own. I was especially delighted when Bobby agreed to open up and talk about a subject that is elusive to most people I know; Balance. Bobby and I went to the same high school, he was older than me and we hung out with different people, but if you went to Meyers High School, you knew who Bobby Collins was. His personality was larger than life. Fast forward some 12 odd years, and I was given the chance to get to know Bobby. I found out that his heart was just as large, if not larger than what I remember from school. Recovery brought us together, and it’s been a gift to watch him grow and flourish. Bobby was there for me when my mom passed away. He showed up at my house with flowers and his companionship. I will forever be grateful to the love and kindness that he spreads throughout this world.
A Delicate Balancing Act
Becoming overwhelmed seems like a natural and easily triggered state, for myself. Knowing how to say ‘no’, walk away, or even prioritize things in life can be a tricky practice. Yes, a practice. One in which at times I feel like I fail at, however, I know it is through failure and trials that comes growth and expertise. I like to think that in my “previous” life as an active alcoholic I was able to balance things, but the reality was – I knew how to do one thing correctly, drink, and drink in excess was the mission. When I found recovery and started to work on the inner workings of me I found a new freedom. One that lead me into a recovered state of mind, body and spirit. I assumed that with this serene state of being I would be able to balance life and life’s circumstances; boy was I wrong.
How do you find balance in your day-to-day activities and life? What do you do when your plate is too full? Is there truly enough time in the day to get everything accomplished? As a person in recovery I have at times a seemingly urge to strive to get everything done. To get where I think I am supposed to be in life if I didn’t have my “mishaps”. But then reality sets in and the lack of peace and unsteadiness comes about, and I remember, ‘Easy Does It’. I didn’t get here overnight and I’m in a marathon, not a sprint.
For me, it’s about learning how to balance and practice the art of balancing. I do this through easy and simple steps:
- I start my day by meditating and clearing my mind from any obstacles
- Write down a list of things that need to be accomplished-
- by writing a list it helps me visually understand what it is important
- Know when my plate is full and have the ability to say no
- When to walk away, ask for help or simply take a break
Life has the funny ability to provide each and every one of us many gifts, but awareness and self-awareness are indispensable and our biggest assets. It is always OK to pause and understand when something isn’t serving you a greater good or purpose to walk away. If we are not growing from it; how are we learning from it? If this task, person, thing or subject is keeping you off balance, it is your sole responsibility to be in tune with your inner peace and know how to say ‘No’. It owes no explanation and carries a complete sentence behind it.
Balancing life carries a fine line between peace and turmoil. One which provides an abundance of happiness and contentment and one that has a burden of destruction. Therefore, balancing life is a skill we must practice on a daily basis and requires discipline, structure and constant revisiting on all of our parts. Life is a journey and therefore we must remember to enjoy the ride.